Couples in Assisted Living: Mom and Dad Benefit from Transitioning Together
It’s a tricky situation: Dad seems ready to transition to assisted living while Mom can still live fairly independently–but does not feel equipped to offer full-time care herself. How do you meet one parent’s needs while still enhancing the other parent’s quality of life?
Even if only one parent appears to require care, both experience a greater sense of well-being when they transition together, because, after all, together is where they belong.
An Unbroken Bond
Your parents have been a team for a long time. Any kind of transition brings its stresses, and Mom and Dad have most likely experienced their share over the decades: moving, parenting, and starting new jobs. Transitioning to assisted living will be one of their most significant changes yet. Doesn’t it make sense for them to do it together?
Many seniors put off moving to assisted living, even when they clearly need the extra support because they do not want to leave their spouse’s side. Imagine leaving behind not only familiar surroundings but the person who knows you best. Couples who transition together adjust to their new homes more quickly by providing companionship, moral support, and a firm foundation on which to build new friendships and memories.
A Variety of Options
The best senior living communities provide a personalized plan for care, not a “one-size-fits-all” approach. Suppose Mom needs daily medication management and physical therapy while Dad can take care of most of his needs by himself. In an ideal living situation, both parents can make their home in the same apartment, receiving only the care they need. Communities that allow seniors to “age in place” provide varying levels of care in the same home while their needs change over time. Even residents with few physical needs can enjoy the benefits of cleaning services, chef-prepared meals, and planned activities and events so they can focus on what’s most important in life: their relationships.
Parents often balk at co-transitioning because of cost. If just one half requires the additional care that assisted living provides, why pay for two?
The good news is that quality senior living communities take couples pricing into account when planning for accommodations and services. Talk to providers about the menu of services provided, particularly special rates for doubling up on room and board. Focusing on one new living arrangement, rather than maintaining two, may even save money in the end. And don’t forget that by moving all at once, you leave behind the expenses of house utilities and maintenance, mortgage or rent, and more.
Transitioning to assisted living can be challenging for the whole family, but by keeping Mom and Dad together, you will lend comfort and stability to the process as they create a new home together.
We're here to help answer any questions you or your parents may. Call (866) 289-1585 or schedule a tour of Brethren Care Village to learn more about transitioning into senior living and getting the individualized care Mom, Dad, or both parents need.